We spend our center grownup years defending our youngsters. Certainly, parenting represents the costliest and tough duty of our lives. We baby-proof our homes. We warn them concerning the risks of residing within the twenty first century. We educate them to be productive members of society. We search to guard them from the hazards of drug abuse. We make investments our retirement {dollars} in order that we don’t turn into burdensome on them.
It’s an awesome problem, and maybe all of us have a minimum of a number of regrets about sure choices we made and priorities we selected. Then we run out of vitality and are delighted to maneuver past the parenting stage to the grandparenting years. As an alternative of regularly placing out substantial {dollars} for the good thing about our youngsters, we eagerly transfer into the following position. In keeping with the 1978 Nobel Literature Prize winner Isaac Bashevis Singer, “Children come with labor pains, but grandchildren are pure profit” (In My Father’s Courtroom). We’re completed with our parenting type of tasks — or possibly not. What are our tasks to the long run and extra distant generations?
King Hezekiah of Judah is described by the author of two Chronicles as a great king, within the custom of King David (29:2). But, like King David, he had his human frailties, resembling that described in Isaiah 39, when he succumbed to delight and showmanship by displaying his kingly wealth to the envoys from the King of Babylon. The prophet Isaiah confronts the king with the prophecy that Judah’s wealth can be looted and carried away to Babylon within the days of his descendants. Hezekiah’s response to this story of doom was to not lament or to hope in sackcloth and ashes for deliverance, however to state, “‘The word of the Lord that you have spoken is good.’ For he thought, ‘There will be peace and security in my days’” (39:8). As an alternative of in search of to guard his descendants, he noticed the prophecy solely when it comes to the short-term private implications for his personal private peace and affluence. The information was good for the years of Hezekiah’s life, although it predicted excessive loss for his descendants.
Hezekiah was not significantly involved about defending his grandchildren. I’m wondering, are we doing any higher?
Within the organic self-discipline of ecology, we’re a minimum of taking some steps to guard the earth that our grandchildren will know. No less than there are recycling initiatives broadly accessible at the moment, although we hear tales that a lot of the supplies we ship for recycling usually are not really recycled. We now have not but discovered a financially sustainable technique to recycle our supplies. We now have managed to take solely child steps close to our consumption and our waste.
But, indisputably, probably the most severe approach wherein we’re not defending our descendants is regarding monetary irresponsibility. Our nationwide debt is approaching 35 trillion {dollars}, representing a private debt of $105,000 for each particular person (grownup, teen, little one, toddler, and new child) residing in America. We’re all in severe debt, and we don’t care. We are going to simply cross it on to our descendants. Apparently, we live in settlement with King Hezekiah. The information is nice as a result of it received’t blow up in my lifetime. It is not going to be my downside in my days.
There are a number of of us who’re unwilling to reside our lives in accordance with the slogan, “Not in my lifetime.” For instance, Native American novelist Robin Wall Kimmerer suggests a distinct ethic in her novel Braiding Sweetgrass. She writes, “Knowing her grandchildren would inherit the world she left behind, she did not work for flourishing in her time only.”
It’s personally pricey to look past this decade, this century, and contemplate how our extravagant decisions will influence our descendants. Will our grandchildren look again at us and consider us as protectors, or will they as a substitute be tempted to cancel our tradition? In contrast to most of our forefathers, maybe we need to be canceled.
Dr. Gary L. Welton is assistant dean for institutional evaluation, professor of psychology at Grove Metropolis Faculty, and a contributor to The Heart for Imaginative and prescient & Values. He’s a recipient of a significant analysis grant from the Templeton Basis to research optimistic youth improvement.
“Well bless their hearts.”